Long Distance Relationship? Why Not?

Perhaps people who are in love will think that their life is so perfect because God has sent them a partner who loves them perfectly. They can spend all the time with their partner to share everything that can make their partner happy. But, how if there is a distance which separates them?  Do they still think this life is so perfect?  Maybe they will think that they are a perfect couple but they are just not in the perfect situation. That is why long distance relationship is like a big disaster for some couples in maintaining their relationship. A distance will make them feel anxious because they seldom meet their partner. In fact, this anxiety should not give bad effects at all because long distance relationship can also give some positive effects for them. Forming independence, building loyalty, and having time for family and friends will be the positive effects for people who are in long distance relationship.

First of all, people who are in long distance relationship will try to build their independence in doing everything in their life. It means that they can do their daily activity without needing their partner’s help. If they seldom meet their partner, automatically they cannot ask their partner’s help because there is no possibility to defeat the distance. This situation will help them to understand that they should build independence in order to maintain their relationship. They should not complain or regret because of the distance which separates them with their partner. They should use this chance to show that they are independent people who can face the situation even they are far away from their partner.

In addition, people who are in long distance relationship will try hard to build a loyalty in order to maintain their relationship. Loyalty is the important thing in a relationship because it can show how the way people love their partner. If they love their partner so much, automatically they will not betray them. They will try hard to build a belief and loyalty even they do not have time to be spend together. Loyalty can be built through good communication because it is like a foundation for a relationship. It is not true at all if some say that people who are in long distance relationship will betray their partner. Betrayal can also occur to some couples who always spend their time together. So, long distance can be a measure how much people love their partner and how far their effort to build a loyalty.

Most important, people who are in long distance relationship will have more time for their family and friends. It can occur because they do not need to spend all the time with their partner. Spending time with family or friends can also help them to forget their anxiety because they seldom meet their partner. If they are filled with longing to see their partner’s face or hear their partner’s voice, they can forget their feeling for a while by having fun with their friends and family. So, this relationship can give colorful experience for them because even they are in love with their partner, they can still maintain good relationship with their family and friends. They can also prevent boring relationship because they do not only spend all the time with their partner.

Long distance relationship is not impossible to be maintained. People who can maintain their long distance relationship wisely are people who understand the meaning and investment of their relationship. They can also form their independence, build their loyalty, and have time for their family and friends. This relationship can be maintained as long as people and their partner can do their own accountability. They should believe that even physically they are far away, but psychologically they are close each other.

A Wine Glass in the Shelf

A Wine Glass in the Shelf

By: Ni Wayan Novita Yuliantari

A wine glass, stand still inside the shelf

Need to be cherished, filled with hope

A wine glass, remembering itself

Hiding a deep scar, only hope

Its stem holding its want, love, and word

Till its beauty fades, lose its price

Holding a sweet pain of a sharp sword

Filled with longing of gentle voice

A wine glass in the shelf, wait a hand

Standing gathering dust forever

Waiting a powerful magic wand

Changing its sorrow, but never

Yearning to be filled with a sweet joy

No more accuse innocent shelf

Remember the day of a prized joy

Not shift for others, just itself

This poem is created based on my GELAS story.

Well, my poem “A Wine Glass in the Shelf” is actually about a woman who has patience and loyalty for someone. In this poem, the word “a wine glass” means a woman. This woman is different from another woman because of her heart. In this poetry, we can see that this wine glass is placed in the shelf and it is used just when it is needed. It means that though someone who is waited by this woman is usually need her just when he needs her and then forgets her when he does not need her anymore, this woman still hides her sorrow and pain. She just tries to remember day when she can feel joy with that man. Actually, she does not want to be cared only when that man needs her, but she wants to be with that man all the time. That is the reason why she is still patient and loyal to face the fact. Hopefully, he does not place her as a wine glass in the shelf anymore since she is not a replacement of other women places.

I hope this poem will inspire you about patience, sincerity and loyalty. But, as a woman, when we have huge crush on someone, we should clever enough to decide what we should do.

*) Thanks to Mr. Drummer who has inspired me to write this poem~

-Ni Wayan Novita Yuliantari-

SENJA

Entah sejak kapan, aku tak pernah tahu pastinya. Entahlah, kini aku selalu menantikan kedatangannya. Menantikan senja. Teramat sangat berbeda dengan aku yang dulu yang tak pernah peduli akan kedatangannya. Tak pernah sekalipun aku bayangkan, bagaimana senja bisa merenggut hatiku seperti ini. Senja dikala itu, senja yang begitu indah. Langit merah, bau kota di kala itu, dan aku masih mengingatnya dengan jelas. Hamparan rumput hijau, suara kendaraan yang hilir mudik, teriakan anak-anak yang sedang bermain, pedagang kaki lima, dan orang-orang yang melepas penat menikmati senja, semua itu masih tergambar jelas di mataku. Aku begitu menikmati senja itu, meski singkat dan kemudian dia menghilang. Meninggalkanku dan berganti dengan kegelapan malam.

Senja di kala itu, saat pertama kali aku melihatnya. Mengenalnya dan mendengar tawanya. Ya, dia yang kemudian perlahan merenggut perhatianku. Dia seperti senja, begitu menyejukkanku saat aku telah lelah menghadapi panas teriknya siang. Dia seperti senja, kala matahari telah menuju peraduannya. Aku masih dapat merasakan kehangatan sinarnya, meski telah meredup. Dia memberikanku keberanian untuk menatap pekatnya malam.

Ah, pikiranku menerawang entah kemana. Entahlah begitu banyak hal yang berputar di dalam kepalaku saat aku mendengar celotehannya. Aku tak pernah bosan, mungkin tak akan pernah bosan. Aku akan merindukan candanya, merindukan senyumnya, sama seperti aku merindukan senja saat aku menghabiskan malam, menunggu bergantinya hari. Entah mengapa begitu besar pesonanya, padahal aku tahu tak ada terangnya sang surya, tak juga ada indahnya cahaya bintang dan bulan. Tapi, tetap saja dia telah mengalihkan duniaku, merenggut hatiku, dan menghidupkan mimpi-mimpiku.

Dia tak pernah tahu, mungkin tak akan pernah tahu aku begitu mengaguminya. Meski terkadang aku ingin mengatakannya, mengatakan bahwa aku begitu mengaguminya. Mengatakan bahwa begitu ingin aku mendengar candanya di setiap hariku. Dia yang membuatku selalu menyunggingkan senyum di bibir kecilku. Aku pun terkadang ingin bertanya, bagaimana caranya merenggut hatiku. Aku telah larut dalam dunianya. Senja yang begitu elok.

Begitu singkat, itulah yang dapat aku rasakan. Ya, karena dia adalah senja. Singkat namun tetap melekat erat di pikiranku. Aku telah terpesona olehnya. Aku merindukan senja. Aku ingin melihatnya lagi, senja yang sama. Disini, di tempat yang sama aku menanti kedatangannya. Membunuh waktu, membunuh rasa keingintahuanku, dan setia menantinya, menanti senja yang aku kenal. Aku berharap bisa menemukannya, di pinggir kota ini. Aku bisa melihat hilir mudik kendaraan, canda tawa anak-anak yang sedang bermain, pedagang kaki lima yang sama. Namun, aku tak dapat menemukannya lagi. Masih terbersit harapan di hatiku untuk tetap menunggunya. Tapi, sang surya semakin meredup dan menghilang, berganti dengan dinginnya malam. Sama seperti dia yang kemudian menghilang.

Huh, aku pergi meninggalkan angan-anganku, kembali ke dunia nyataku. Kenapa aku mesti takut ketika senja menghilang? Kenapa aku harus menantinya dan berharap dia tahu apa yang selama ini aku rasakan? Bukankah aku hanya rumput liar? Tak pantas disandingkan dengan keelokan langit senja.

19.01.13

*) This story is dedicated to someone who ever touched my heart. (Cok).

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