Long Distance Relationship? Why Not?

Perhaps people who are in love will think that their life is so perfect because God has sent them a partner who loves them perfectly. They can spend all the time with their partner to share everything that can make their partner happy. But, how if there is a distance which separates them?  Do they still think this life is so perfect?  Maybe they will think that they are a perfect couple but they are just not in the perfect situation. That is why long distance relationship is like a big disaster for some couples in maintaining their relationship. A distance will make them feel anxious because they seldom meet their partner. In fact, this anxiety should not give bad effects at all because long distance relationship can also give some positive effects for them. Forming independence, building loyalty, and having time for family and friends will be the positive effects for people who are in long distance relationship.

First of all, people who are in long distance relationship will try to build their independence in doing everything in their life. It means that they can do their daily activity without needing their partner’s help. If they seldom meet their partner, automatically they cannot ask their partner’s help because there is no possibility to defeat the distance. This situation will help them to understand that they should build independence in order to maintain their relationship. They should not complain or regret because of the distance which separates them with their partner. They should use this chance to show that they are independent people who can face the situation even they are far away from their partner.

In addition, people who are in long distance relationship will try hard to build a loyalty in order to maintain their relationship. Loyalty is the important thing in a relationship because it can show how the way people love their partner. If they love their partner so much, automatically they will not betray them. They will try hard to build a belief and loyalty even they do not have time to be spend together. Loyalty can be built through good communication because it is like a foundation for a relationship. It is not true at all if some say that people who are in long distance relationship will betray their partner. Betrayal can also occur to some couples who always spend their time together. So, long distance can be a measure how much people love their partner and how far their effort to build a loyalty.

Most important, people who are in long distance relationship will have more time for their family and friends. It can occur because they do not need to spend all the time with their partner. Spending time with family or friends can also help them to forget their anxiety because they seldom meet their partner. If they are filled with longing to see their partner’s face or hear their partner’s voice, they can forget their feeling for a while by having fun with their friends and family. So, this relationship can give colorful experience for them because even they are in love with their partner, they can still maintain good relationship with their family and friends. They can also prevent boring relationship because they do not only spend all the time with their partner.

Long distance relationship is not impossible to be maintained. People who can maintain their long distance relationship wisely are people who understand the meaning and investment of their relationship. They can also form their independence, build their loyalty, and have time for their family and friends. This relationship can be maintained as long as people and their partner can do their own accountability. They should believe that even physically they are far away, but psychologically they are close each other.

A Wine Glass in the Shelf

A Wine Glass in the Shelf

By: Ni Wayan Novita Yuliantari

A wine glass, stand still inside the shelf

Need to be cherished, filled with hope

A wine glass, remembering itself

Hiding a deep scar, only hope

Its stem holding its want, love, and word

Till its beauty fades, lose its price

Holding a sweet pain of a sharp sword

Filled with longing of gentle voice

A wine glass in the shelf, wait a hand

Standing gathering dust forever

Waiting a powerful magic wand

Changing its sorrow, but never

Yearning to be filled with a sweet joy

No more accuse innocent shelf

Remember the day of a prized joy

Not shift for others, just itself

This poem is created based on my GELAS story.

Well, my poem “A Wine Glass in the Shelf” is actually about a woman who has patience and loyalty for someone. In this poem, the word “a wine glass” means a woman. This woman is different from another woman because of her heart. In this poetry, we can see that this wine glass is placed in the shelf and it is used just when it is needed. It means that though someone who is waited by this woman is usually need her just when he needs her and then forgets her when he does not need her anymore, this woman still hides her sorrow and pain. She just tries to remember day when she can feel joy with that man. Actually, she does not want to be cared only when that man needs her, but she wants to be with that man all the time. That is the reason why she is still patient and loyal to face the fact. Hopefully, he does not place her as a wine glass in the shelf anymore since she is not a replacement of other women places.

I hope this poem will inspire you about patience, sincerity and loyalty. But, as a woman, when we have huge crush on someone, we should clever enough to decide what we should do.

*) Thanks to Mr. Drummer who has inspired me to write this poem~

-Ni Wayan Novita Yuliantari-

SENJA

Entah sejak kapan, aku tak pernah tahu pastinya. Entahlah, kini aku selalu menantikan kedatangannya. Menantikan senja. Teramat sangat berbeda dengan aku yang dulu yang tak pernah peduli akan kedatangannya. Tak pernah sekalipun aku bayangkan, bagaimana senja bisa merenggut hatiku seperti ini. Senja dikala itu, senja yang begitu indah. Langit merah, bau kota di kala itu, dan aku masih mengingatnya dengan jelas. Hamparan rumput hijau, suara kendaraan yang hilir mudik, teriakan anak-anak yang sedang bermain, pedagang kaki lima, dan orang-orang yang melepas penat menikmati senja, semua itu masih tergambar jelas di mataku. Aku begitu menikmati senja itu, meski singkat dan kemudian dia menghilang. Meninggalkanku dan berganti dengan kegelapan malam.

Senja di kala itu, saat pertama kali aku melihatnya. Mengenalnya dan mendengar tawanya. Ya, dia yang kemudian perlahan merenggut perhatianku. Dia seperti senja, begitu menyejukkanku saat aku telah lelah menghadapi panas teriknya siang. Dia seperti senja, kala matahari telah menuju peraduannya. Aku masih dapat merasakan kehangatan sinarnya, meski telah meredup. Dia memberikanku keberanian untuk menatap pekatnya malam.

Ah, pikiranku menerawang entah kemana. Entahlah begitu banyak hal yang berputar di dalam kepalaku saat aku mendengar celotehannya. Aku tak pernah bosan, mungkin tak akan pernah bosan. Aku akan merindukan candanya, merindukan senyumnya, sama seperti aku merindukan senja saat aku menghabiskan malam, menunggu bergantinya hari. Entah mengapa begitu besar pesonanya, padahal aku tahu tak ada terangnya sang surya, tak juga ada indahnya cahaya bintang dan bulan. Tapi, tetap saja dia telah mengalihkan duniaku, merenggut hatiku, dan menghidupkan mimpi-mimpiku.

Dia tak pernah tahu, mungkin tak akan pernah tahu aku begitu mengaguminya. Meski terkadang aku ingin mengatakannya, mengatakan bahwa aku begitu mengaguminya. Mengatakan bahwa begitu ingin aku mendengar candanya di setiap hariku. Dia yang membuatku selalu menyunggingkan senyum di bibir kecilku. Aku pun terkadang ingin bertanya, bagaimana caranya merenggut hatiku. Aku telah larut dalam dunianya. Senja yang begitu elok.

Begitu singkat, itulah yang dapat aku rasakan. Ya, karena dia adalah senja. Singkat namun tetap melekat erat di pikiranku. Aku telah terpesona olehnya. Aku merindukan senja. Aku ingin melihatnya lagi, senja yang sama. Disini, di tempat yang sama aku menanti kedatangannya. Membunuh waktu, membunuh rasa keingintahuanku, dan setia menantinya, menanti senja yang aku kenal. Aku berharap bisa menemukannya, di pinggir kota ini. Aku bisa melihat hilir mudik kendaraan, canda tawa anak-anak yang sedang bermain, pedagang kaki lima yang sama. Namun, aku tak dapat menemukannya lagi. Masih terbersit harapan di hatiku untuk tetap menunggunya. Tapi, sang surya semakin meredup dan menghilang, berganti dengan dinginnya malam. Sama seperti dia yang kemudian menghilang.

Huh, aku pergi meninggalkan angan-anganku, kembali ke dunia nyataku. Kenapa aku mesti takut ketika senja menghilang? Kenapa aku harus menantinya dan berharap dia tahu apa yang selama ini aku rasakan? Bukankah aku hanya rumput liar? Tak pantas disandingkan dengan keelokan langit senja.

19.01.13

*) This story is dedicated to someone who ever touched my heart. (Cok).

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From The Beginning until Now

She looked outside from her small bedroom. She just thought about this life and remembered the sweetest moment when she was child in this small house. Even she was not a princess like in a story, but she remembered that she was a little princess for her mother, someone who was very important in her life. Anastasya Putri is the name that her mother had given to her. For her, live as Balinese was a wonderful life. She could live in an island which is famous all over the world because of some beautiful places and interesting culture. She was a girl who had a great spirit and always kept in her mind to make her family’s life was better than now. She promised to her self that she would make all of her dreams come true.

She was a student of one famous Senior High School in Denpasar city. Maybe, some of her friends didn’t believe that she could study in that school which was known as a school for high economy class. But, she could get a scholarship as a reward of her hard working. So, she could enter in this school even her friends always underestimate at her, but she always remembered that she was there to reach her dreams, not to listen their ridicule. But, not every person was like that. She had some friends who cared her; the most special were Tria and Dion. Even their life was too different; they became a Good Samaritan since they were in junior high school. Tria was a girl from high economy family. She was as talkative as a magpie, but actually she was a kind girl who always cared to her friends. And Dion was a smart boy but he was from a simple family which his parents were teacher. How about Tasya? She was not like her other friends who could squander their family’s wealth every time. It was an impossible thing that she could waste her money. She knew that her mother was just a person who cut and made clothe in a small factory and her father was an employee of a small company. Every month, they just earned money for their daily need. It was impossible for Tasya to ask much money for her pocket money.

This was her second year in Senior High School. This was also her first time to know about love. About five months ago, she saw a boy at the first time at canteen of their school. That boy was Raka who was one of famous boy in her school. It was like building castle in the air if she dreamed about that boy. But it became different story when they become a close friend and leave out their different lifestyle.

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“How’s your life?” asked somebody behind Tasya while she was sitting on the bench in School Park. “Not bad!” answered Tasya quickly. “You look to be off color today… Hi, come on dear… Where is my best friend who always as cheerful as a bird…?”
“Dion… “Said Tasya. “What’s the matter? Why you look out of sort? Don’t say that you thinking about that strange boy! Do you think about Raka?” said Dion who was sitting beside Tasya.
“But, actually you are right! Do you know? He is not a bad boy like every person said. I think he is a kind person and maybe we can be good friend with him. Trust me…!” said Tasya. She actually knew that Dion didn’t like Raka.
“How long have you known about him? 1 week? 3 month? 6 month? Or more? Do you mean that he was not guilty boy? Is he an innocent? I hope you know about him more…!” said Dion in a loud voice.
“He is our friend. Why you hate him like this? Is there any problem if we try to be a friend with him?” asked Tasya sadly. “Do you like him?” asked Dion seriously. “He is a nice boy, I don’t know why I feel comfortable with him… Actually…. Hmm… I am in relationship with him!” answered Tasya. “Have Tria know about this?” asked Dion. “Yes, she does. I am confused how I can tell you about this because I know that you hate Raka…!” said Tasya. Hastily, Dion left Tasya alone.

***

Three months later after the last conversation between Tasya and Dion. Since that situation, Dion always avoided from Tasya. She actually didn’t know why he was like this. She asked Tria but Tria also could not answer her question. Today after school time, Tasya and Tria decided to search their best friend, Dion. Their walking stopped when they heard something.
“So, you win this game!” said a girl who was as a happy as a king. “You know that he can do big things, this is just a small thing. It is too easy. In the nick time he can do it!” said a boy who stood up beside the girl. There were three boys and two girls there beside computer laboratory.
“Guys, stop talking about that. The important is I can win this game, she becomes my girlfriend for a month, so know you don’t need to walking behind me to know about her and me!” said the other boy, Raka. Tasya didn’t believe what she had seen and heard before.
“I think it is enough, and thanks a lot for you!” said Tasya who came to him.
“How pity you are? You have to still remember that you are nothing in this school, so wake up girl! Do you think that my friend will love you? This is not a movie story. This is a real life, actually your real life!! Never thinking you will be a princess and then find your prince. You must think where are you from??” said a girl who named Rhena. Then Tria came and shout in front of them.
“Empty vessels make the most noise! Do you know that? You are like that! You are nothing, just a loser who just proud of your family’s wealth! Have you gaining ground in your life? Once in blue moon that you make your family proud of you because of your truly ability. You are tied to your mother’s string. You!! Raka!! Looks before you leap. Don’t think that my friend will beg for your love. It is impossible, because all of you are not more than a loser…”

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Tasya finally realized that it was true, it was just a dream. She must come back to her real life. During a week, Raka always asked Tasya’s apologize, but she kept the ball rolling. She just wanted to forget every moment with him; even it was too hard to forget. She would try because she would not build the castle in the air again. In this situation, her mother is an angel for Tasya. Her mother was as cool as a cucumber. Tasya ever thought that maybe it was better if she didn’t think about love again. Because she knew, the important was her family’s love not a boy’s love.
Tasya also asked Dion’s apologize because she didn’t believe in him. She knew that Dion wanted her to take the best decision. She respected their friendship because she knew that Dion always with her even she was happy or not. They would not hurt his heart again because of a boy who was a big liar. She would not let her best friend leave her alone because she needed him who was like a sun when the rain won’t stop.

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This was a difficult thing for Tasya when Raka always tried to show that he really love her. He always tried every day, even Tasya always ignored him. In same situation, she was surprised to know that her best friend, Dion also showed that he also loved her, more than a best friend. This hard situation disturbed her day and her study. She could not concentrate to her lesson. This problem made her mark went down. She had to pass a final examination while she was thinking about unimportant thing. One side, she didn’t want to hurt somebody’s heart. Raka was her ex boyfriend who ever she loved very much and Dion was her best friend who was like her angel and she could not live without Dion. The other side this could make her crazy if she didn’t solve this problem.

Tasya decided to ignore about this problem. She just wanted to have a preparation for her examination. She didn’t want to make a bricks without straw. She wanted to continue her study to a University so she had to get a scholarship again. She didn’t want because of this problem she would lose a golden chance to make her dreams come true. So, she just left the past and tried to forget it. Maybe someday she could decide a best decision for Raka and Dion. But, it was not now.

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One year was over. Tasya became one of student in University in Bandung city. She studied there and left Bali Island and her family for a while. She could make her parents’ dream came true. She felt happy to see her parents’ smile. This was not the end of her struggle but this was the beginning. Now, she came back to Bali. Because of a long holiday, she could come back to her lovely hometown. And of course, she would meet someone who was important for her. One year was a long time for thinking about who was her love. She wanted to do her promise to meet that boy. When she was arriving in Ngurah Rai Airport, she searched for that boy. She knew that he was here, waiting for her. Suddenly, someone clapped her shoulder and embraced her for a while. It was a right decision for Tasya, even she hurt another heart but she knew this was the best way. From the beginning until now, she just loves Raka Ditya Nugraha.

THE END

by : Ni Wayan Novita Yuliantari/ 1012021033/ 2B EED

Your Call

Waiting for your call, I’m sick, call I’m angry
Call I’m desperate for your voice
I’m listening to the song we used to sing
In the car, do you remember, butterfly, early summer?
It’s playing on repeat, just like when we would meet
Like when we would meet


I was born to tell you I love you
And I am torn to do what I have to
To make you mine, stay with me tonight
Stripped and polished, I am new, I am fresh
I am feeling so ambitious
You and me, flesh to flesh
’Cause every breath that you will take
When you are sitting next to me
Will bring life into my deepest hopes, what’s your fantasy?
What’s your, what’s your

I was born to tell you I love you
And I am torn to do what I have to
To make you mine, stay with me tonight
And I’m tired of being all alone
And this solitary moment makes me want to come back home
And I’m tired of being all alone
And this solitary moment makes me want to come back home
And I’m tired of being all alone
And this solitary moment makes me want to come back home
And I’m tired of being all alone
And this solitary moment makes me want to come back home

I was born to tell you I love you
And I am torn to do what I have to
I was born to tell you I love you
And I am torn to do what I have to, to make you mine
Stay with me tonight

by : Secondhand Serenade

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